Remember the reasons you broke up with your ex. If necessary, write down a list of reasons you said goodbye that you can consult often when you have feelings of wanting to get back together. It may be that you do still want to get back with him, but at least do it with a clear mind as to the reasons why. No-one is perfect, so don’t approach this with rose colored spectacles. If you want to learn how to get your man back then you can. But you also need to be aware of what you don’t like, so that you can make up your mind as to whether a reconciliation is worth it.

Remember, it doesnt matter if you think you have always been good to him, and that he should ‘by rights’ respect that. It only matters what he thinks and feels. Most people need space right after a break up so dont try to rekindle things with your ex too soon and wonder aimlessly why did he stop calling. Instead, give him a little time to miss you. It may seem instinctive to you to get right back on the phone with him and try to patch things up, but that would be the wrong thing to do, and could well set your reconciliation back, rather then making it more likely.

The immediate goal here is to start a habit of conversation. So even if it doesnt go very deep, at least youre getting him to talk, and that is a good step on the road to getting him back. If theres something you feel you cant discuss with each other, then perhaps you need to start asking yourselves if youre even meant to be together in the first place.

In any relationship, honesty is always a good place to start everything. So become clearer in your own mind about what the foundations for the relationship are, and where you were in it both in the good times and more latterly when things went wrong. You may well find that missing him in the breakup phase has changed history a little, and that if you actually sit down in the cold, hard light of day and consider what really went on, that the relationship had its faults even in the good days! That doesn’t mean to say that its not worth salvaging and trying to get him back. Merely that if you go through a process of self evaluation you will be in a better position to assess what was good, what wasn’t, if you still want him back, and a plan of action to take whatever you decide forward.

Remember back to one week before you met him for the first time. The reality is that life probably wasn’t that bad! And whilst it may be nice to have him around. Don’t fall into the trap of being a jangle of nerves, or somehow thinking that the world is going to stop spinning because he isn’t around. Its not. The truth is that the best way to get him to miss you is to act like you did in the first week you met him. Friendly for sure. Approachable, most definitely. But NOT DESPERATE! No Sir! If he hadn’t have called you in that first week then sure you may have been a bit sad or a little upset, but it wouldn’t be the all encompassing thought that it currently is in your mind. You would simply have quickly moved on.