We are brought up reading about fairytale weddings, watching them on TV, where nothing goes wrong, the bride looks perfect and everyone has a super time. Some reality shows have burst some bubble on the subject, the behind-the-scenes goings-on at most weddings are not discussed in the open too often. What they don’t tell you about weddings is that even the best plans are ruined by unforeseen circumstances and human nature.
As the bridal couple, you need to realize that no matter how well you’ve planned your wedding, things can still go wrong. The good news is that most of your guests won’t know that some things may have gone wrong because they didn’t know what your plans were in the first place.

The florist might forget to place the flowers in the chapel. Your best friend’s date might drink himself into a frenzy. The dogs will take a chunk out of the wedding cake because your mom left the door open to the room she was storing it in. Your train will get a hole in it because you put the chair on it when you sat down for a moment before heading down the aisle. The caterer will have changed the menu at the last moment due to missing ingredients. Your pesky nephew will ruin every photo take by trying to jump in every single one or the bartender will have forgotten to stock up on your boss’s favourite drink. There have been outdoor weddings that have been rained out with weather that wasn’t supposed to start for the next two months, weddings where the priest was an hour late, and weddings where someone knocked over the cake before the reception even started. One couple discovered they had been booked into the smallest room in the hotel instead of the honeymoon suite which was already occupied by another couple.

The bridal party, and in particular, the bride and her mother, could let this type of incident ruin an otherwise perfect occasion. The best advice is to take a deep breath, smile and move on instead of stressing over details that are no longer under your control. One incident should not be allowed to ruin months of preparation, or affect the rest of your day or night.

There will be some things that can and will happen, even if no one openly talks about it. Another thing they don’t tell you is that in each of these weddings, couples still managed to get married despite these mishaps. Most of the guests, in fact anyone not involved in the planning, will barely notice most of these problems, and no one will think any less of you for not planning for such circumstances. Most of them will enjoy their meal, have a good time, and go away thinking ‘What a lovely wedding’. You should do the same.

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