“Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” is a very old quotation one which  in this  modern world of technology is often forgotten  in our relationships. We have almost come to the stage where we find it easier  to where we have more communication  using  our computers than with real relationships. The constant need for immediate replies  to our problems  and challenges  means that we are slowly  loosing the ability to effectively  relate  with our loved ones.

After a hard  day at work or when you have finished looking after the kids the greatest reward you are able to  give to the person  you love is to listen, that’s spot on I did write listen! Get time for both of you to have  some  “us’ time, begin  with something  simple  for example  “What was the best thing about your day?” it will give  your partner the opportunity  to be frank about their day, in contrast to the ubiquitous “how was your day?” to which the answer can  be a single word – “Good”. In order that you can become  an attentive listener you should  ask open ended  questions that cannot  be answered with a one word. Takes practice but the benefits  to your relationship are tremendous. 

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Try to  be above all a listener, that shows you respect your partner opinions, at the same time as remembering that 90%  of communication connecting you is unspoken , in other words body language, your partner will rapidly realise that you are not really listening to what they are saying. This will help to destroy  your relationship over time in the end  reaching at the stage  when they say  “you never listen to what I have to say……”, or much  worse “you only listen when you want something…………..”

Never  interrupt them or try to finish their sentences for them, give them time, it is a little understood  fact that we can process words at a much faster rate than we can speak them, so just listen, be interested in what they say, meet thier needs .

Whether your relationship is just beginning or  well established~ long standing}  the needs are the same to keep it on a firm foundation  is to listen to whatever your partner is saying about whatever is important to them, then say something only when you have listened  and understood what they have been speaking to you about. Sounds very deep I know, but if you just guess that you understand  what they mean without listening properly and give an incorrect reply then follow it with the worst put down – ‘I thought that’s what you meant……….”, will simply add to your relationship problems. Neglect things now and you may well end up asking how to get my ex back

Listening is such a small thing to offer your partner, but over many  years I have discovered that one of the commonest  relationship issues  is frequently flaged, during  a relationship advice session, when one or other of them says “She/he never listens to a thing I say………………”, which almost always  means  that whenever  they communicate  they do not give themslves time to listen, you know the “two ears, two eyes & one mouth” thing, means speak half as much as your listen and look .

Young or old we all of us of us need  to know that our partner wants to listen to  what we have to say and show us the respect we crave  by listening, it can about anything  for example, their thoughts on the latest film/game/book/TV show/what happened in their day ……..the list can be endless and it is frequently  trivial stuff but they want  to share it with YOU, all you have to do is to LISTEN.

Keep you love for each other young by talking daily  and above all LISTENING to what the other has to say, Successful communication allows for  a successful relationship – got it? For more advice how to get your ex back