It is often a mistake lots of people make.  When trying to get their ex back, they say I’m sorry a thousand times.  This doesn’t work and can drive your ex further away.  Learn more about how to get your ex back here.

Instead of apologizing endlessly, there are a few things to do that will be much more effective.  Starting with, don’t say I’m sorry if you did nothing wrong.  If your ex just isn’t that into you any more, maybe you did nothing wrong.  Apologizing can make you sound pathetic.

Of course, if you did something wrong that needs an apology, that’s a great place to start.  You have to understand what you did wrong and be ready to apologize, just don’t start with an apology – yet.

However, before you apologize, you need to do a few things first or your apology wont work.  Lets say you had an affair and that’s why you lost your ex.  You definitely did something wrong!  But don’t go saying I’m sorry a hundred times.  It wont work.  Trust has been broken.  Betrayal has been experienced by your ex.  You can learn more about how to get your ex back specfics here.

Before you say you’re sorry a million times, do these smart steps first!  Own up to what you did.  Admit it.  Your ex needs to know at a basic emotional level that you know what you did was wrong.  So admit it.  Don’t justify or try to explain your actions.

The next important step is almost always overlooked.  And that is to get your ex to vent.  Venting allows your ex to get all their negative feelings out, off their chest.  So you must get them to and then let them vent before you apologize.

If you can do both of those things, admit what you did wrong and get them to vent, you are in great shape. Now, when you apologize, they can hear you.  Now you’re I’m sorry has a chance of being heard.  And being accepted.

So if your ex deserves an I’m sorry, make it a powerful one.  And do that by letting your ex vent and letting your ex hear you own up to what you did wrong.  That way, you may be able to get your ex back in hours or a few days rather than waiting months hoping they’ll cool down and forgive you.  Go here for a free course on Love Life And Intimacy Help.