Let’s say you’ve been with your partner for such a long time that you wonder where all the fun went. Your job stresses you out, the kids won’t stop making demands, your in-laws say you never visit, laundry is piling up, and dinner needs to be cooked. You are ready to pull your hair out, and the last thing on your mind is intimacy. What happened? Think back and remember when you met your husband or wife for the first times and everying you did was exciting, new and adventurous.? What happened. What went wrong?

Sounds like you need to recharge your relationship. Before you complain that there isn’t enough time or your too tired or you’re too old or what will you do with the kids? Drop them off in the street? Hear me out. So send the kids off to your grandparent’s. Below you will find four helpful tips on how to enhance your love life with your partner. Here are four sexy tips to put the spice back in your love life.

1. Try Any Place But Your Bed

Your bed need not be Ground Zero. If a table feels too hard, try a paddec hair, hot tub or relaxing bath. If the table seems too hard, try the couch, a hot tub, or your bath. Expand your horizons! Try the front seat of your car if you drive to a secluded park to watch the stars at night. But certainly don’t ingnore the bed if that’s where you would rather to be. But don’t ignore the bed if that’s where you want to be. Make sure the sheets are clean. Spritz some perfume on the sheets and pillowcases to make your bed even more alluring.

2. Sensory Deprivation

Use these things to your advantage. Use them to your advantage. Having to rely on senses other than sight will enhance your time together. Touch and taste are vitally important to use when enjoying each other’s company. Have some fun by blindfolding your partner and lighting some incense. Turn off the electric lights and light some candles. Remember also how important a surrounding and sound can be. Play some tranquil, stimulating music or a CD with sounds of nature. Turn on some quiet, sexy music or a relaxing nature CD. For added sensations, put a blindfold scarf over your partners eyes and slowly tease and tickle them with a feather. Something we don’t know about is exciting and sexy.. The unknown is very sexy.

3. Intimate Massage

Never buy cheap masssage oils as they clog up the pores on your skin and they often don’t smell very nice, expecially when you are trying to get into the mood. Get some wonderfully scented oils and prepare for a very unforgettable night. Don’t use cooking oil or baby oil when giving a massage because those oils clog pores and they don’t smell very good. Buy some aromatic oils and get ready for a sensuous night.

Start at the feet and work your way up. Use your thumbs and fingers along the arches and calves, following the natural contours of the muscles. Make sure to massage your partner’s most sensitive areas such as the hips, back, and shoulders. Don’t rush anything and really take your time. Foot and hand massages are very relaxing, and a vibrator on sore feet will relax your partner like never before. Take your time, and don’t rush. If you enjoy a little romance in the bath, buy some waterproof vibrators and commence the massage in the water. will make your wet sexy games even more stimulating sex toys If you chose. Once you give your partner a massage, it’s your partner’s turn to treat you. If you decide to use vibrators and personal massagers remember to chose one’s which don’t contain latex as this could trigger an allergy.

4. The Big “O” Isn’t The Be All And End All

Remember that when it comes to enjoying each other, the trip can be more fun than the destination. Keep your mind in the here and now, and enjoy the scents, touch, and taste of your partner. Take the pressure off of each other by focusing on how good you make each other feel without having to explode in fireworks every time you get down to it.

Ensure that you enjoy regular play with your lover and try new things with the time that can you spend together. With your busy lives you will find it necessary to schedule play dates. The sky is literally the limit.. The sky’s the limit!

Elizabeth Black is a writer who lives on the Massachusetts coast next to the ocean with her husband and four cats.